Sexual Fluidity

Couples and Individuals working with Sexual fluidity

There is significant debate over whether sexuality is stable throughout life or is fluid and malleable. Sexual orientation identity, is not a choice. While scientists generally believe that sexual orientation is usually stable (unlikely to change), sexual identity can change throughout an individual's life, and may or may not align with biological sex, sexual behavior or actual sexual orientation.There is no consensus on the exact cause of developing a sexual orientation, but genetic, hormonal, social and cultural influences have been examined. Scientists believe that it is caused by a complex interplay of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences.

Sexual orientation is an enduring pattern of romantic or sexual attraction (or a combination of these) to persons of the opposite sex or gender, the same sex or gender, or to both sexes or more than one gender. These attractions are generally subsumed under heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality,[while asexuality (the lack of sexual attraction to others) is sometimes identified as the fourth category

When a couple gets married whether heterosexual or homosexual, there is a assumption that the couples sexual orientation identity will stay stable. However, statistically there is a 2-10 % chance that one of the partners will change their sexual identity and become attracted to either the same sex, opposite sex, or bisexuality. When this happens, both partners are shocked and do not know how to cope which can create a crises.

In Couples's Counseling I can help to normalize these feelings and let the couple slow down to process these feelings which are often complicated. There are many ways to work to help the couple understand the many options and possibilities that are available. This does not mean that you have to break up the family.


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